Everything has a soft spot, you, me and asphalt roads. Wabisabi.
Potholes! We never really see them until it’s too late. We roll over them in our car, or step in them and twist our ankle. Instantly, pain, suffering and anger pops in takes over our feelings in the present moment itself!
It’s the potholes fault.
“The pothole is the cause of my anger…or is it? After all, it did not come to me, I went to it; the pothole was in my path – the pothole has no path, it is just where it is. I can’t be angry at the pothole, so am I angry at myself for not being more attentive and avoiding it? Wait, I didn’t do anything wrong, so it must be someone else’s fault!”
Gotta make it personal – It must be someone else’s fault.
“They (Whomever they are.) need to fix this pothole! This would have never happened if they took better care of the roads!”
“That seemed to work. Now I am angry at something, or someone that I have no interaction with – I can get no closure, I can’t tell anyone to fix the pothole.
“I am powerless. I can’t tell anyone, or anything to fix my anger! What? Well I’ll be…”
The anger within me is the problem, not the pothole, or anyone that has let it go without repair. Why am I angry? I am powerless over the situation in each passing moment.
Something out of my control has invaded my serenity.
Something out of my control has caused me physical pain.
Something out of my control has damaged my car, motorcycle, or bike.
Something out of my control has caused me a repair expense.
There’s nothing to blame, so I could very well be stuck in anger for quite some time.
By this time the moment has come and gone and it is time to try and extinguish the anger and move on with space and time. Some folks refer to this as “get over it,” or “stuff happens.”
We can’t stay in the moment and remain mad, no more than we can stay in the moment and remain serene. Time goes by.
The toughest part is to recognize and to know when to act on not clinging to our anger and soon enough to not get caught up in the suffering it is causing.
Will anger happen? Yes.
Will it last all day? Only if I let it.
Anger is not a pothole. A pothole is a pothole.
Today, I am trying to look at what the real cause of my anger is when things happen out of my control.
I will meditate and be mindful as best as I can.
Breathe, breathe, breathe – breathe now.
Peace stay with you and may your potholes be few…in the present moment.
May you not suffer.